How to Reach Simultaneity In the Bedroom

Cuming together may seem an unattainable goal but it’s still a much-desired thing for a loving couple. Mass media was quite persistent in implying that simultaneous orgasm is a consequential event in the intimate life of a couple. Indeed, who wouldn't want to experience an earth-shaking climax every time you enter the bedroom? So let's finally answer the question if it’s possible to achieve incredible sensations during orgasm.

What is simultaneous orgasm?

Simultaneity means that you and your partner climax at the same time. If you take into account the peculiarities of male and female sexuality you will know that synchronized orgasm can become a real task for those who are insistent in doing so.

How do you achieve it?

1. Synchronize the time




Synchronize the time. Generally speaking, men need about half the time women do to cross the finish line. In fact the time a woman requires for climax to happen may vary greatly. So having simultaneous orgasm is mainly a matter of setting your time synchronically.

2. Focus on your partner's reactions




Again gender differences come to the foreground of the matter. The fact is that men need more direct stimulation to their genitals to reach the big O, while women are hardly able to climax from the penetration alone. Thus the primary goal for achieving simultaneity is to concentrate on the other’s reactions. You will need to take time and get to know each other's body first. As with any other skill you will need practice and patience. Basically this means that you should be in command of the usual way your partner climaxes, know what those pre-orgasmic signs are and increase or slow down the pace. All in all learn to become a mind reader.




3. Delay the ejaculation




Delaying your partner's ejaculation is a basic skill partners learn when they want to synchronize their actions. There are many ways to do it, while not all of them should be practiced if you are not sure about your own skills or health. You may ask your partner to press on the perineum area (situated between scrotum and anus) or to focus on some far-off thoughts during thrusting. In any case don't overdo it with the distractions.




4. Speed up her climax




Never underestimate the importance of foreplay. You may hear that women like men's thrusting vigorous and fast. We wouldn't argue with this statement if you mean to have a good time for your own pleasure. But in case you plan to give your better half something more than your presence, take into account the peculiarities of female responsiveness. So do your best to bring forth a geyser. Stimulate her with your hands and mouth, tease and experiment, but first learn her own preferences.




5. Take responsibility for your own pleasure




A woman who has trouble achieving orgasm usually expects her partner to find out about secrets of her body by a mere nod of her head. For a man who is anxious about his performance in the first place the intricacy of the female anatomy becomes a puzzle in itself. In this regard additional self-help with stimulation of your own fingers or sex toys is really useful for a couple if they want to cum together.




6. Exclude the warnings




If you are anxious, never experienced orgasm, you do it quite rarely, suffer from early ejaculation or any other performance disturbance the idea of achieving simultaneous orgasm may turn out to be an absolutely unnecessary burden.




7. Relax




If you still hope to achieve that mysterious and vague simultaneous orgasm - take the last but probably the most effective piece of advice. Let things go their own way. Enjoy the process of lovemaking and savor every moment and you may occasionally come to orgasm without too much effort. The chances of having simultaneous orgasm then are quite good. But summing up all the previously mentioned tips, merging together in ecstasy is just as possible as having two ships arriving in the same harbor at one time. And don't get upset if you haven't reached that peak together because sexual satisfaction is not about having it simultaneous but having it mutually.