How to reach simultaneity in your bedroom

Coming together may seem an unattainable goal still a much desired thing for a loving couple. Mass media was quite persistent in implying that simultaneous orgasm is a consequential event in intimate life of a couple. Indeed, who wouldn't want to experience earth-shaking climax every time you enter the bedroom setting? So let's finally answer the question if it is possible achieving incredible sensations during orgasm.

What is simultaneous orgasm?

How do you achieve it?

1. Synchronize the time

   Generally speaking, men need about half less time than women to come to a finish line. In fact the time a woman requires for climax to happen may vary to a greater number. So having simultaneous orgasm is mainly a matter of setting your time synchronically.

   
   
2. Focus on your partner's reactions

   Again gender differences come to the foreground of the matter. The fact is that men need more direct stimulation to their genitals to reach the big O, while women are hardly able to climax from the penetration alone. Thus the primary goal for achieving simultaneity is to concentrate on the other side's reactions. You will need to take time and get to know each other's body first. As with any other skill you will need practice and patience. Basically this means that you should be in command of the usual way your partner climaxes, know what those pre-orgasmic signs are, increase or slow down the path and all in all be a mind-reader.

   
   
3. Delay the ejaculation

   To hold off your partner's ejaculation is a basic skill partners learn when they want to synchronize their actions. So there are many ways to do it, while not all of them should be practiced if you are not sure about your own skills or health. You may ask your partner to press on the perineum area (one that is situated between scrotum and anus) or to focus on some far-off thoughts during thrusting. In any case don't overdo with distraction as this may end up with inventing a new algorithmic formula while a woman of your dream will be lying over there and waiting for you to give a final shot.

4. Speed up her climax

   Never underestimate the importance of the foreplay. You may hear that women like men's thrusting vigorous and fast. We wouldn't argue with this statement if you mean to have a good time for your own pleasure. But in case you plan to give your better half something more than your presence, take into account peculiarities of female responsiveness. So do your best to bring forth a geyser: stimulate her with your hands and mouth, tease and experiment, but first try to make a research on her own preferences.

   
   
5. Take responsibility for your own pleasure

   A woman who has troubles achieving orgasm usually expects her partner to find out about secrets of her body by a mere nod of her head. For a man, who is anxious about his performance in the first place, intricacy of female anatomy becomes a puzzle in itself. In this regard additional self-help with stimulation of your own fingers or sex toys is really useful for a couple if they are attuned not only to come but to do together.

   
   
6. Exclude the warnings

   In case you are anxious about and never experienced orgasm or you do it quite rarely, suffer from early ejaculation or any other performance disturbance, the idea of achieving simultaneous orgasm may occur to be an additional and absolutely unnecessary burden.

   
   
7. Relax

   If you still hope to achieve that mysterious and vague simultaneous orgasm - take the last but probably the most effective advice - make things going their own way. Enjoy the process of lovemaking and savor every moment and you may occasionally come to orgasm without too much efforts. The chances of having simultaneous orgasm then are quite good. But summing up all the above mentioned factors, merging together in ecstasy is just as possible as having two ships arriving in the same harbor at one time. And don't get upset if you haven't reached that peak together, because sexual satisfaction is not about having it simultaneous but having it mutual.