Love, Sex and Stress

Everyone is familiar with this phenomenon that implies an altered state of our mind that makes us speak only about our feelings and forget about everything that used to be very important to us. In fact it does not matter how you call this state : hearthrob, passion, desire or love. Anyway this is a kind of temporary menthal affection, obnubilation of the intellect. We have our heads in the clouds, we dont' eat, don't sleep and do not feel pain. This is not a surprise as infatuation causes our bodies to produce a great deal of endorphenes that release pain. Being infrluenced by this drug we can overcome any obstacles that prevent us from achieving our goal and being happy.

Being under the influence of this drug we give the person whom we love a great power over us, as his or her approval of what we do becomes necessary for our self-esteem, whereas disapproval leads to our self-condemnation.

Being affected by this drug we are sure that our feelings will never change. We speak about our everlasting love and the most curious thing is that we do believe in it.

However, after some time the obsession fades. It inevitably disappears like all other extremely strong emotion. Our body cannot exist without sleep and food and our mind again becomes able to value things soberly and properly. We begin to realize that beautiful eyes do not show good personal qualities of the person with whom we fell in love and our passion weakens. Do you think that love is blind? No, it is not. Passion is blind.

Passion

Ask any woman – Who easier falls in love and gets indifferent, men or women? I bet she will say something like this -

women fall in love more often than men

women rarier than men give up their partners

women suffer much more than men after break up

You are mistaken if you think that women fall in love easier than men. In fact you are mistaken if you believe at least in one of the statements mentioned above.

The fact that a person reads only love stories and watches only soap operas does not mean that she (or he?) can easily become the victim of Cupid. Women are romantic in their dreams, but things they do in reality are quite earthly. Psyshologists say that there is almost no difference between male and female attitude towards love relationships! And of course both sexes see the difference between falling in love beginning of a romance and staying in love. The main difference is responsability of our behavior.

Who said that women are ready to sacrifice themselves for the sake of love?

Statistics says quite the opposite. A two-year research was carried out at American universites. More than a thousand of students were asked the question Would you agree to marry a person whom you do not love but who has all the qualities you admire? 64 percent of males answered «no», whereas 76 percent of female students answered «yes»!

Since most men see themselves as bread-earners, they can afford marrying a woman who would boggle their imagination. In fact men more often than men say that their marriage is the result of infatuation. This means that women are more inclined to breaking up the relationships. This means that women give up their partners for some practical purposes, they hope to find a reliable partner.

Men do not agree that males are more likely to get indifferent to their partners and find other girlfriends. In fact they state the following: men are more often than women given up by their parners (according to the statistics about 90 percent of men versus 60 percent of women were given at least once in their lives were given up by their partners.

Does it mean that women cannot fall in love? No, it does not! Women can fall in love and they gladly do that!

Various polls show that women of any age say they consider love or passion to be a good, rather than bad experience. Women of all ages said that they express their feelings more emotionally than men, as often they have to wait for phone calls, invitations and proposals. Women of all ages turned out to be likely to fall in love, but with one difference: when speak about their best experiences young women mentioned short and passionate romance whereas women over 50 spoke about love that lasted for years.