His Virginity

A virgin girl arouses tender emotions in a man including the wish to take care of her. On the other hand a virgin male seems to many people an anachronism, a rare specimen that must be blacklisted.

Psychologists, gynecologists and educational specialists have chronicled and studied the experiences of the virgin female ad nauseam. However, all of them neglect the troubles a young man can have while his virginity losing.

The first sexual experience for 70% of guys isn’t at all what they dreamed it would be. Among the problems they have to deal with are sudden sense of arousal or erection weakening, early ejaculation or not knowing where to penetrate the woman.

It’s extremely helpful if the virgin male has someone experienced for their first encounter and can help him to overcome all his difficulties. However, it so happens that most of the time both partners are virgins. This situation can be undesirable because neither will be able to take the lead and let the other know exactly what to do.

The causes of failure for the first sexual encounter are natural and even predictable.

According to common opinion, a man must be active in bed. But what is the inexperienced man to do?

If a young man is very sensitive and nervous it’s quite possible that he will ejaculate even before intercourse occurs.

If his activity is directed to doing everything "properly" then the discrepancy between what is happening in reality and in his imagination is likely to be very disappointing.

Since most men begin their sex life at quite a young age they have quite a high hormone level and a strong sexual desire. So even if the first sexual experience was unsuccessful, a young man tries again and again until he does everything "properly". According to some data, there can be a half a year period between the first attempt to have sex and a really successful sexual encounter.

Some men hunker down after the first failure. They think, “I have a disease, I do not want to ruin a good girl's life or the girl will laugh at me.” These sad men remain virgins until 30 or even 40. What a shame!

Generally a "maid-in-waiting" of any age as a rule arouses in other people a suspicion. "Why is he or she in his 30s and has not found anyone yet?" A woman can say nobody wants to marry her whereas a man doesn’t have that excuse to fall back on.

Usually old virgins are men with low hormone levels and weak sexual desire. These are short, childish men with lack of hair and often they are too plumy and even fat. They are not eager to communicate with women. They do not need intimate relationships. And at the same time the IQ of such a man can be rather high, he can have a successful career and be quite happy and successful without family and sex.

On the other hand, a man can have a normal hormone level and at the same time be very unsociable, shy, and unable to make friends and communicate with people. As a rule, these qualities are inborn but sometimes parents overdo the care of their son and as a result he becomes shy, indifferent and unable to make decisions independently. These men are afraid of sex because they are intimidated.

It may sound strange, but there are virgin romantics among men. They want to save themselves for a beloved woman who they haven’t met yet. Being in search of the perfect woman a man might let other woman pass him by that don’t match up to the physical and mental image that he has built in his head of the perfect woman.

Whatever the reason, the situation only gets worse and worse for the older virgin. The hormone levels that a 17 to 20 year old has that allows him to have sex again and again begins to decrease after a man is 25 to 27 years old. Sexual arousal weakens and a man gets accustomed to living without sex and does not worry about his "abnormality" any longer. He even does not make any attempts to have close relationships with a woman because almost all women of his age are already married and spending time with younger women is difficult.

A romance with a virgin male can turn into real hell for a woman. She will have to be active, to insist on every new step in their relationship and these steps might even frighten the man more than he already is. And it’s out of the question to suggest that he try using sex toys and other experiments. She must be ready to take control of some rather strange situations. For example, a virgin can begin to panic at the most exciting moment and stand up, get dressed and leave without any excuse.

Even if a woman manages to get her virgin boyfriend to bed it’s likely impossible that he will fulfill her plans. And she should be ready to make every effort in order to prevent his panic and make sex a usual and desirable event for him.

So a woman who dares care for an old virgin must possess a strong maternal instinct and at the same time have quite a strong sexual desire in order to teach the man exactly what he needs to do to please her.

The result of such a relationship can be unpredictable. Such couples, like many others, can be happy or unhappy, live together their whole lives or get divorced. However, such spouses usually do not cheat on each other.

So in a word, a male virgin is rare. Hunting for him isn’t easy and even the bravest hunters are likely to be disappointed with the results.