First Date Sex(part II)

In fact there is only one reason for refusing sex on the first or on the second date so as to get to know the man better before first lovemaking. You do know that sex with a beloved person is much more enjoyable and satisfying than sex with someone whom you do not know quite well.

From this point of view waiting for some time until you realize whether this man is the one with whom you wish to stay for a long time, is not too bad. Anyway, this is up to you to decide what is the high time for the first sex with new boyfriend.

After first date sex

Sometimes women think of the mentioned above issues after first date sex happened.

As soon as sex ends a woman's head fills with dozens of questions like these: “What does he think about me now? What if he is very conservative? Will he call me? What is he feeling? How should I behave?, etc.

Most probably psychologists would say that the best solution in this situation is to be calm and to behave naturally.

Calm down and think : What happened? You expressed your good feelings towards this man through a certain way. This happened. This was your choice and this was his choice. What should you worry about?

The best way to get rid of worrying and nervousness is to be direct and sincere. This implies that asking the man directly about his attitude towards the fact that you had sex soon after getting acquainted is quite a good decision. The main thing is not to be too insistent and obtrusive. For instance you can send him an SMS : “Hi. I am a little shocked now, it happened so soon. I even browsed the Internet to find articles on this topic”. Most probably his SMS will dispel or will your doubts.

Your belated attempts to pretend to be a “touch-me-not”, murmuring “I never did anything like this before, what are you going to think about me now” is very unlikely to save your image. Who likes realizing he was someone's mistake and understanding that he is not trusted?

So, the decision is only yours. No one can say when it is the best time to turn platonic relationships into sexual. Taking into consideration the fact that every case as well as every person is unique, it is quite logical to assume that there are no strict rules about this matter. Intuition, self-esteem, being honest with yourself and ability to take independent decision are much more important.

What to me, I think that there is only one criteria that allows you to judge whether to have first date sex with this man or not. Ask yourself this question: Will I regret about it? Will I manage to reconcile myself to the fact that this was the first and the last sex with this person? Am I ready for any consequence? If you are sure you will not regret - go ahead. At least it is much better to regret about what you did, than about missed opportunity.